I Found A Way To Steal The Sun From The Sky!

Being single in this day and age really sucks.

Not only at the ripe old age of 32, does it seem to be a monumental task of meeting someone who'll give one's life meaning, but given the economic state of the world, dating almost seems an impossibility at times.

I, myself at three points in the last year, resolved to give up altogether and just focus on being a great father (which I am), rather than just wasting my time, trudging through the wastelands of the dating world. There are times that I start to believe that perhaps I might clearly not be the type that should be with someone. Then, of course, the vicious circle begins anew, and then I try once more to find someone.

The bane of my existence? Plenty of Fish. This free dating site seems, in essence to be at least part of the bane of my existence. Now it seems to me that a dating site, at it's best should be free, because I am sorry, but I am not going to pay to get rejected, but POF (as it's called by its users) at times, doesn't seem too keen on delivering much honesty, and at times, takes one's hopes and throws them in the proverbial blender and hits frappe.

I have been on Plenty of Fish for over a year now, and honestly, yeah, I have met a number of girls from there, some really great, others not so great. I even deleted my profile on one occasion, due to mounting frustrations of mine because of the fact that so many people that I have met, are so misleading in how they describe themselves.

And to me, personally... I don't get that.

I mean, honestly. Unless you're using that site to get laid (Which I understand is quite the frequency), why would you put anything other than truth about yourself in your profile? Nothing's more mood dropping then when you first gaze in person at the individual that you're planning to meet in person, who lists their body type as "Athletic" or "Average", to find out that they weigh more than you do, and your personal body type is nowhere near athletic.

I have nothing at all against larger women. I have gone out on dates with a number of them, the point is, is that if you're going to try and meet someone, at least make the point to be honest about how you look, as well as who you are. I messaged one gal on POF, that said that she was a huge sci-fi geek, and that she found geeky men attractive, and then when I called her for the first time, she had no idea who Yoda was. I mean COME ON! Sci-fi geek, and not know Yoda? I don't think so. Even non-geeks know who the hell Yoda is! Even my ex-wife, who had never seen Star Wars before she met me knew who Yoda was!

Now since I pretty much stopped really trying on POF, I'm getting more messages sent to me, which is nice, I really like the attention. It seems that the reason being is the fact that I put a silly list of true things about me that seems to resonate with the females on POF, which is nice, however. As desperate as I am to meet someone, I am not going to resolve to start a relationship (ie: Change my Facebook status or Change my already set in my ways life) immediately, unless you really hit it off with me, to the point where I see stars!

Twice in the last 3 months, I have met someone, and after spending a very short amount of time with them, they have pretty much decided to push a relationship on me. And when you push like that, a man gets scared, because even the most desperate of men, want a little bit of a challenge. I am not saying to make things impossible, but when you're talking about moving in together, and it's the middle of the first week of knowing each other, a man tends to get a little paranoid, and starts looking for the door (hint, hint).

I was compelled to write this blog, which was started at a time where I should have been sleeping, because of the fact that this just happened again. Someone, who knows who they are, decided to keep pushing, and when you keep pushing, I don't respond to that very well, and I have decided not to talk to them again. I enjoyed their company, but when you keep telling me that I don't want to hang out with you, and that I don't feel like talking to you, then guess what? I am not going to want to hang out with you, and I am not going to feel like talking to you. I'm a negative enough person, so when you add more negativity to the mix, let's face facts, it only gets more negative!

POF for me is certainly becoming the bane of my existence.

Am I going to give up and delete my profile again? No. But let's just say that your friendly neighborhood ForchMan is starting to grow a little weary about dating at this point, and is starting to think that perhaps it's not in the cards....

But then again, that's what I said the last time I met someone who I thought was really special, and we began a 2-3 month relationship that was very good, so maybe that's the catalyst that I need to find someone better!

But that's just my opinion, what do I know???

F.M.